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May 02, 2008
motherless day
I've just realized that I've made plans to be out in public on Mother's Day instead of at home under the covers crying. Seriously considering cancelling.
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I was working in a JCPenney's after my mom died. I totally choked up seeing the sales-decor lady come around with the little things she was setting up all over. And then I realized I was scheduled to work on it. It was hard to get through. I think you have the right instinct here, my friend. Give yourself some space this time.
Posted by: Celeste at May 2, 2008 8:03:00 AM
Sometimes it's best to let ourselves get thru the "firsts" of life after such a loss in seclusion. Can you beg off?
12 years later, Mom's Day is still hard for me, but at least I can move about the world without coming unglued. So there's "hope" (which just feels all wrong to say).
(((Hugs)))
Posted by: Knitnana at May 2, 2008 8:10:34 AM
This will be my third mother's day without my mom and I'm with the other posters. For me, it's best to just stay low-key at home so I can cry when I want to. I usually make something for dinner that my Mom used to make and have a beer.
Posted by: Amy P at May 2, 2008 9:16:44 AM
Hang in there. One of the most important things that I learned from my therapist after my husband died is to leave my options open. Keep the in public date, but let them know that you may need to beg off at the last minute. Decide that day whether you want/need to be alone or with other people. This way, you have options.
Posted by: Ann at May 2, 2008 10:08:46 AM
One of my closest friends lost her mom and she now makes plans every year to be in a country where they don't celebrate Mother's Day. This year she's going to Tokyo. A little much, I know, but you do what you have to to keep yourself sane. Please take care and do what you need to do to get through it. I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine it.
Posted by: Stephanie at May 3, 2008 2:42:53 PM
The first year is hard. Maybe you can do something special to thank her spirit for all that she meant to you...light a candle, write a note, talk to her (yes, it helps), send flowers to your dad. Ritual helps.
XXOO
Ellen
Posted by: Ellen at May 3, 2008 6:01:40 PM
I've spent each one since losing mom with my grammy. If it's in a public place where you'll see lots of women celebrating with their mommies, I'd cancel; I still feel painful envy when I see women with mothers older than mine. It's not f#&%ing fair.
Posted by: Wendy at May 7, 2008 8:52:46 AM
